My 45th Year and Tranformation~

Hello Lovelies!

Today is my 45th birthday.
It's funny because for the past several years, actually telling people my age has been a bit difficult for me.  I have felt like being in my 40's somehow made me old.

It's not true, you know.  The number of years you have been on this planet, is just that.  A number.  And age is just a number.  It really doesn't define you.

And finally, now that I am turning 45, I've become pretty excited about it.
My 45th year is a big deal to me.

I even have a theme for this year...


I have always been a goal setter.  And this year, my big goal is essentially a total transformation!
When I say that, I don't mean that I'm going to go out and get plastic surgery.  Nope.
What I mean is that all of the goals that have been floating around in my head are finally being worked on.

I know what you're thinking.  That sounds maybe a little bit **too** ambitious.
I kind of thought so too at first.  But I've found something interesting (because I actually started this big transformation idea a little while ago).  The more ways that I am trying to change for the better, the easier it is for me to accomplish them.

I think it has to do with self-discipline.

Self-discipline is HARD.  And by no means do I consider myself to be an expert in it.  But I have found that when I am trying hard to be disciplined in one area of my life, it kind of crosses over into other areas as well.  So I figured, as long as that seems to be the case, why not work on a bunch of things at once.

And the interesting thing about that is... it actually gives me more motivation!  I am happier than I've been in quite a while  because I have so many GOOD THINGS that are occupying my time and thoughts.  And I can literally see the improvements in my life.

I'll post more about individual facets of my big year of transformation as time goes on.  And I'll share more about the individual goals and the ways they are changing my life.

But for now, I'm going to go celebrate the big 4-5 with my kiddos...





Hello Lovelies,

I'm going to wax a bit philosophical today.  I hope you don't mind.

There is a word that  has been playing on my mind for a few weeks and I feel like I need to share a little bit about it with you today.

And what is that word, you ask?


I'm not sure exactly why I have been thinking about entropy lately.  But it keeps coming to mind, and then the other day, one of the newsletters I follow sent an email out that talked about the idea of entropy, and I figured there must be a reason that it keeps coming up in my life right now.  And if it's something that needs to be thought about by me...maybe it might benefit you as well.

Entropy by definition (courtesy of Merriam-Webster) is the degree of disorder or uncertainty in a system.
And the Second Law of Thermodynamics states that entropy will only increase over time, or that all matter is constantly moving toward a state of chaos.

So, let's liken Entropy to our lives shall we?

Essentially, our lives can get way too complex and chaotic if we let them.  And it actually takes effort to keep them from getting that way.

We have to make a conscious decision to simplify our lives.  And that can take the form of many different things.

For example, as a woman and mothers, I get pulled many different directions.  And I don't know about you, but it can be very easy to feel the need to be everything to everyone.  This is quite simply unhealthy.

So rule #1 in fighting Entropy in our lives is to learn to say "NO".

I'm not advocating saying "no" out of laziness or disinterest.  I'm advocating saying "no" when we really and truly don't have the time, energy or means to take on another thing.  Don't let your personal guilt-o-meter (and trust me, I have a very strong sense of guilt) cause you to take on more than you can handle.

rule #2 in fighting Entropy in our lives is to set goals.

Goals give us things to strive for.  But goals alone will not defeat the tendency of life to get chaotic.  Rather, plans to achieve those goals will give us guidance and direction to move forward in an orderly fashion.

rule #3 in fighting Entropy is to give your energy to simplifying your life.

The thing about entropy is that it is a natural process governed by natural laws.  It is just plain easier for things to become disordered because it requires energy to put the systems in place that will keep them in order.  This is true of simplicity in our lives.  If we just sit back and let life happen to us, if we just say "yes" to everything that we're asked to do because it's easier than letting someone down, if we just hope for the best and don't set goals to make good things happen in our lives...we will slowly descend into a chaotic, crazy life that won't keep us (or our families) happy and healthy.

So that's my soap box for today, Lovelies.
Live life purposefully.  Set goals.  Work to accomplish them.  Be mindful of your needs and the needs of your family.
In short...kick Entropy's butt.


To give credit where credit is due:  Inspiration for this post came in part from the writings of James Clear.



Teen Bedroom Plans~

My oldest son is 16 - soon to be 17.  He'll be a senior next year.  I can't believe that this is likely the last year that he'll be living here at home.  I miss him already and he's still here! (Mom problems...Lol!)

We moved into Hydeaway Cottage almost 3 years ago.  And in all the time, I haven't really done anything with his bedroom.  Since this is his last year at home, I wanted to give him a really cool place to hang out.

He's a filmmaker, so when I asked him what he wanted for his room, he told me he wanted it to be movie-themed.  That can be pretty broad, and if you're not careful, extremely cheesy. So we talked about specifics and finally landed on the idea of an "Old Hollywood" feel.

We liked the idea of a Chesterfield Sofa, but his room isn't quite big enough for a sofa and a bed.  Then I remembered having seen a Chesterfield-style bed in the RH Kids catalog.  My budget for his room is next to nothing, so Restoration Hardware wasn't a possibility.  But I did find a great looking Chesterfield Daybed on Overstock.

Here is the in-process room....

The bed is going to be our big splurge for the space. The bedding on it right now is only temporary, although I really like the faux fur idea.   He wanted black walls.  I wasn't so sure about that, so we compromised and used Cyberspace from Sherwin Williams which is a dark navy-toned gray.  Once we got the color on the walls, I really started loving the lounge-y feel of the space and so did he! Now I'm working on shopping the house to create the rest of the space.

Luckily, for artwork, he wants movie posters.  And those can be found very inexpensively.  (Or we may end up using some of the ones he already has).  Either way, we'll come up with something amazing without spending much, if anything.

I'll keep you posted on the room as it comes together, but we're off to a great start!